Dear Annie: He’s manipulative and constantly makes you cry, yet you love him?

DEAR ANNIE: I met this guy who seems to be my soulmate. He lives in America, and I’m in South Africa. However, he refuses to meet me and says it’s because he is a celebrity.
He is manipulative and constantly makes me cry. He wants me to send him money before we meet, but because I can’t — I just don’t have the funds he’s asked for — he has not spoken to me for nearly three weeks now. He sulks and, in general, behaves like a child.
I love this man, but I don’t like this behavior. We are both adults and should act as such. He said before we stopped talking that I needed to send him $8,000, which he knows very well is unrealistic. I’m at my wits’ end. Can you please advise? — Used and Upset
DEAR USED AND UPSET: As much as you think you “love” this man, you know better than anyone that this relationship is a scam. If he truly cared for you, he wouldn’t be making you cry or giving you the silent treatment, not to mention asking you for thousands of dollars. I see nothing here but red flags, and I’m confident you do, too. Call it quits immediately.
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